It is easy to love people in memory; the hard thing is to love them when they are there in front of you.
It is not difficult to deceive the first time, for the deceived possesses no antibodies; unvaccinated by suspicion, she overlooks lateness, accepts absurd excuses, permits the flimsiest patching to repair great rents in the quotidian.
It comes to him: growth is betrayal. There is no other route. There is no arriving somewhere without leaving somewhere.
john updike
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Find meaning. Distinguish melancholy from sadness. Go out for a walk. It doesn’t have to be a romantic walk in the park, spring at its most spectacular moment, flowers and smells and outstanding poetical imagery smoothly transferring you into another world. It doesn’t have to be a walk during which you’ll have multiple life epiphanies and discover meanings no other brain ever managed to encounter. Do not be afraid of spending quality time by yourself. Find meaning or don’t find meaning but “steal” some time and give it freely and exclusively to your own self. Opt for privacy and solitude. That doesn’t make you antisocial or cause you to reject the rest of the world. But you need to breathe. And you need to be.
Camus
n
Fasting is about going without, so you learn to appreciate what you have. It’s also about learning to sympathize with people who have less than you.
n
As it happened, I didn’t grow up to be the kind of woman who is the heroine in a Western, and although the men I have known have had many virtues and have taken me to live in many places I have come to love, they have never been John Wayne, and they have never taken me to the bend in the river where the cottonwoods grow. Deep in that part of my heart where artificial rain forever falls, that is still the line I want to hear.
didion
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It’s been so long. My life has literally been on fast-forward this entire year. I can’t seem to slow down or catch my breath.
This past month: a visitor from New Zealand, a trip to Cape Cod, a promotion. Next month: a trip to a tropical island with my very best friend, N.
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I’ve always said that the best relationships are those that people are best friends and lovers. It’s hard to find and harder to maintain, but at the bare minimum you have to have some elements of friendship: wanting to be with one another, having fun together, respecting and looking out for each other, etc.
10 Foundations For Unhealthy Relationships
n
25. Enjoy having too much. Too much Jack Daniels. Too much love. Too much dancing. Too much work. Too much procrastination. Too much time. Too much responsibility. Too much insecurity. Too much coffee. Too much doubt. Too much of not enough. Realize that overindulgence is the key to neutrality. Realize that a painful destruction is essential to the construction of something wonderfully beautiful. So take one shot too many. Stay out until six thirty, when you have to be at work at nine. Tell them that you love them, even when you know it is too much.
n
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